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: thank you amy.  i don’t think i could have replied any better.   : imo, kelley’s response is very mean and judgmental.  you’d think for such : a "sincerely grateful" person, she wouldn’t have responded so vehemently. i meant "he"  instead of "she" : go figure. : sheri : : **Okay. I can’t let this go by. You registered for items, people bought you : : **what you want instead of what they may want to get you themselves, and : : **then you RETURNED your china?? Wow. Another entry for the dictionary : : **definition of chutzpah. Why did you register for china if you didn’t have the : : **ability to store it??? : : You know, lots of people actually do this. She didn’t get the entire set, : : so returned what she did get for something more practical for this point : : in their lives. Sometimes people do it because they couldn’t afford to : : finish the china pattern to complete the set, but want to complete their : : flatware, or cookware. Registered gifts are not some sacred object that : : the couple can’t return if they change their minds or decide they can’t : : really use them right now after all. I’d hardly call that "chutzpah" – : : perhaps a reality check, but hardly something to cause embarrassment or a : : reason to question one’s gratitude. : : **> > on the flip side, one of our bm’s married one of our gm’s 2 weeks ago, : : **> and they had hardly ANYTHING purchased off of their registry—none of : : **> their china or silver were purchased  and only one of their sets of : : **> knives.  now granted, their registry items in general were more : : **> expensive, but they got barely half of their cookware  (~9/20 pieces vs : : **> our 20/20, eg), and the prices there were similar. : : ** > i hear they are receiving a lot of vases…..yuck! : : **Oh poor babies. Vases are so useless. Holding fresh flowers, livening up a : : **house … yuck.  Folks, getting married is not about ordering everyone to : : **ante up for their admission price and about a race to the finish to have : : **your dream list of gadgets, toys and fineries fulfilled.  Can anyone spell : : **"grateful" out there? : : **Kelley, married in August, who never registered and wrote sincere thank : : **yous for everything, including the vases. : : She never said vases are useless. She may have implied that LOTS of vases : : is a bit much and after unwrapping the eighth or ninth one, the other : : couple (notice she was relating the registry experience of her friend) may : : have wondered WHY they got so many vases. Sheri was simply stating that : : the couple didn’t get a lot of their registry items because the list was : : full of expensive things – that happens a lot. : : Sorry, but the cynical cattiness is really uncalled for here. She was : : merely stating an observation, you don’t have to believe her, but jumping : : on her like she’s some ungrateful whiner is ridiculous. : : Amy – who worked in a bridal registry and seen Sheri’s friend’s problem : : too many times from brides who think their friend’s pockets are bottomless : : — : : Outside of a dog, a book is a man’s best friend. Inside of a dog, it’s too dark to read. : :          - Groucho Marx

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>  > we got half of our registered china sets (4/8), all of our crystal (and > then some) and inherited silver.   we returned the china though, after > deciding that we didn’t want to store china until we have a house and > that with 2 cats, we’d be better off buying other more practical things.

Okay. I can’t let this go by. You registered for items, people bought you what you want instead of what they may want to get you themselves, and then you RETURNED your china?? Wow. Another entry for the dictionary definition of chutzpah. Why did you register for china if you didn’t have the ability to store it??? > just about EVERYTHING was purchased off our registries (macy’’s, c&b), > and a lot of duplicates and in some cases triplicates.   we were very > surprised and touched at everyone’s generosity. > on the flip side, one of our bm’s married one of our gm’s 2 weeks ago, > and they had hardly ANYTHING purchased off of their registry—none of > their china or silver were purchased  and only one of their sets of > knives.  now granted, their registry items in general were more > expensive, but they got barely half of their cookware  (~9/20 pieces vs > our 20/20, eg), and the prices there were similar.

 > i hear they are receiving a lot of vases…..yuck! SNIPPING REST OF POST ABOUT GIFT GETTING > sheri (&greg) > 5/26/96

Oh poor babies. Vases are so useless. Holding fresh flowers, livening up a house … yuck.  Folks, getting married is not about ordering everyone to ante up for their admission price and about a race to the finish to have your dream list of gadgets, toys and fineries fulfilled.  Can anyone spell "grateful" out there? Kelley, married in August, who never registered and wrote sincere thank yous for everything, including the vases.

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**>  > we got half of our registered china sets (4/8), all of our crystal (and **> then some) and inherited silver.   we returned the china though, after **> deciding that we didn’t want to store china until we have a house and **> that with 2 cats, we’d be better off buying other more practical things. ** **Okay. I can’t let this go by. You registered for items, people bought you **what you want instead of what they may want to get you themselves, and **then you RETURNED your china?? Wow. Another entry for the dictionary **definition of chutzpah. Why did you register for china if you didn’t have the **ability to store it??? You know, lots of people actually do this. She didn’t get the entire set, so returned what she did get for something more practical for this point in their lives. Sometimes people do it because they couldn’t afford to finish the china pattern to complete the set, but want to complete their flatware, or cookware. Registered gifts are not some sacred object that the couple can’t return if they change their minds or decide they can’t really use them right now after all. I’d hardly call that "chutzpah" – perhaps a reality check, but hardly something to cause embarrassment or a reason to question one’s gratitude. ** **> just about EVERYTHING was purchased off our registries (macy’’s, c&b), **> and a lot of duplicates and in some cases triplicates.   we were very **> surprised and touched at everyone’s generosity. **> > on the flip side, one of our bm’s married one of our gm’s 2 weeks ago, **> and they had hardly ANYTHING purchased off of their registry—none of **> their china or silver were purchased  and only one of their sets of **> knives.  now granted, their registry items in general were more **> expensive, but they got barely half of their cookware  (~9/20 pieces vs **> our 20/20, eg), and the prices there were similar. ** > i hear they are receiving a lot of vases…..yuck! **SNIPPING REST OF POST ABOUT GIFT GETTING **> **> sheri (&greg) **> 5/26/96 ** **Oh poor babies. Vases are so useless. Holding fresh flowers, livening up a **house … yuck.  Folks, getting married is not about ordering everyone to **ante up for their admission price and about a race to the finish to have **your dream list of gadgets, toys and fineries fulfilled.  Can anyone spell **"grateful" out there? **Kelley, married in August, who never registered and wrote sincere thank **yous for everything, including the vases. She never said vases are useless. She may have implied that LOTS of vases is a bit much and after unwrapping the eighth or ninth one, the other couple (notice she was relating the registry experience of her friend) may have wondered WHY they got so many vases. Sheri was simply stating that the couple didn’t get a lot of their registry items because the list was full of expensive things – that happens a lot. Sorry, but the cynical cattiness is really uncalled for here. She was merely stating an observation, you don’t have to believe her, but jumping on her like she’s some ungrateful whiner is ridiculous. Amy – who worked in a bridal registry and seen Sheri’s friend’s problem too many times from brides who think their friend’s pockets are bottomless — Outside of a dog, a book is a man’s best friend. Inside of a dog, it’s too dark to read.          - Groucho Marx

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thank you amy.  i don’t think i could have replied any better.   imo, kelley’s response is very mean and judgmental.  you’d think for such a "sincerely grateful" person, she wouldn’t have responded so vehemently. go figure. sheri : **Okay. I can’t let this go by. You registered for items, people bought you : **what you want instead of what they may want to get you themselves, and : **then you RETURNED your china?? Wow. Another entry for the dictionary : **definition of chutzpah. Why did you register for china if you didn’t have the : **ability to store it??? : You know, lots of people actually do this. She didn’t get the entire set, : so returned what she did get for something more practical for this point : in their lives. Sometimes people do it because they couldn’t afford to : finish the china pattern to complete the set, but want to complete their : flatware, or cookware. Registered gifts are not some sacred object that : the couple can’t return if they change their minds or decide they can’t : really use them right now after all. I’d hardly call that "chutzpah" – : perhaps a reality check, but hardly something to cause embarrassment or a : reason to question one’s gratitude. : **> > on the flip side, one of our bm’s married one of our gm’s 2 weeks ago, : **> and they had hardly ANYTHING purchased off of their registry—none of : **> their china or silver were purchased  and only one of their sets of : **> knives.  now granted, their registry items in general were more : **> expensive, but they got barely half of their cookware  (~9/20 pieces vs : **> our 20/20, eg), and the prices there were similar. : ** > i hear they are receiving a lot of vases…..yuck! : **Oh poor babies. Vases are so useless. Holding fresh flowers, livening up a : **house … yuck.  Folks, getting married is not about ordering everyone to : **ante up for their admission price and about a race to the finish to have : **your dream list of gadgets, toys and fineries fulfilled.  Can anyone spell : **"grateful" out there? : **Kelley, married in August, who never registered and wrote sincere thank : **yous for everything, including the vases. : She never said vases are useless. She may have implied that LOTS of vases : is a bit much and after unwrapping the eighth or ninth one, the other : couple (notice she was relating the registry experience of her friend) may : have wondered WHY they got so many vases. Sheri was simply stating that : the couple didn’t get a lot of their registry items because the list was : full of expensive things – that happens a lot. : Sorry, but the cynical cattiness is really uncalled for here. She was : merely stating an observation, you don’t have to believe her, but jumping : on her like she’s some ungrateful whiner is ridiculous. : Amy – who worked in a bridal registry and seen Sheri’s friend’s problem : too many times from brides who think their friend’s pockets are bottomless : — : Outside of a dog, a book is a man’s best friend. Inside of a dog, it’s too dark to read. :          - Groucho Marx

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